Sunday, February 03, 2013

The kind of woman I CHOOSE to be...

There is so much junk in the media these days, especially when it comes to the roles of women. I tried to looking up some quotes to share, but many that I found were so degrading-I dare not share those words with anyone. 

What blows my mind is how upset the general public is with the likes of traditional women, and stay-at-home moms. I just don't get it. So many feminists spew this lie that we are slaves to our homes, children, and husbands-and are a drain on society.  This hurts my soul in many ways.

I am a woman.

I am a woman, daughter, wife, and mother.

I am a woman who CHOOSES to stay at home against the odds, while sacrificing an "easier" lifestyle. 

I am a woman who CHOOSES to honor my husband and submit to him, not because I am a doormat, but because I CHOOSE to honor not only him, but my Jesus too.

I am a woman who CHOOSES to believe that submission is not the same thing as slavery. I CHOOSE to see this as a form of my love and commitment to my husband.

I am a woman who CHOOSES not to desire to be under a woman president or even a woman preacher. I am a woman who CHOOSES to not support my husband having to be under the authority of a woman.

I am a woman who CHOOSES to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, cause well-I like it like that.

I am a woman who CHOOSES not to be on birth control, because my husband and I have entrusted to God on how many children we will have. 

I am a woman who CHOOSES to stay home, so that I will be the one to influence and raise my children-not anyone else, nor the government's ideals.

I am a woman who CHOOSES to home school my babies, because I've been the child who was trampled on by the school system-and I won't have that done to them. 

I am a woman who CHOOSES to take care of my home, because it is where my children learn and grow, and where my husband comes to retreat from the worries of the world.

I am a woman who CHOOSES not to be loud, obnoxious, harsh, and opinionated while using obscene language. I CHOOSE to believe that this sort of behavior is extremely unattractive. I CHOOSE to get my point across through kindness, meekness, and self-control.

I am a woman who CHOOSES to carry myself with quiet dignity, instead of demanding it from everyone around me. I CHOOSE to be in the likes of the Audrey Hepburns, Grace Kellys, and Princess Dianas of the world. 

I am a woman who CHOOSES to be pro-life, because I've felt and seen the life inside of me. I CHOOSE to care about this tiny life inside of the womb, just as much as I care about those outside of it.

So there I am.

If I'm "sucking the life out of society" or "degrading what women have fought for" then that's okay. 

Hating me for it won't change my mind. 

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. ~ 1 Peter 3:3-5

Too many women have too much leisure time for their own good. They have time for criticism, gossip, faultfinding, and complaining. They have time for idle games and lay too much attention to things of the flesh. There are other women who have too little time for the enduring things of life. They are too busy flitting about doing this and that. They have great activity and much doing, but they lack time for building Christian characters. Both kinds of women — the too-idle and the too-busy need to take time for meditation and quiet repose in prayer to God. They need time to cultivate their souls that in turn they may cultivate their children’s lives.  ~ Billy Graham

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  1. Michelle LaDon DeHartFebruary 3, 2013 at 11:21 AM

    Dominique, This is beautiful and I share your same feelings. God created me to be a helpmate to my husband. I choose that path and it brings me so much joy! Thank you for your honesty!

  2. Could not agree more & I plan on doing the same when we have kids.

    1. And you're gonna be such a great momma/homemaker too!

  3. It's baffling to me that the feminist don't like the ladies who are housewives. Isn't it all about choice? thats what they are fighting for. for women to be able to CHOOSE if they want to be the president or ceo of a company or if they want to be a wife and mother. both are just as awesome as the next! for them to say a house wife isn't acceptable then what are they fighting for anyhow? i can't wait to be a mom and i really hope i get that luxury of staying at home for my kids- my mom was a single mom who worked all the time. i had a great childhood but when i look back, i was acting out in school bc i wasn't getting the attention at home sometimes. i pray i can be that stay at home mom and give my kids the world! your allowed to do whatever you want to do! this is america, isn't it? i am wondering why you wouldn't like to have a women preacher or a women boss though?

    1. To be honest-I don't want a woman teaching my husband how to be a man of God. It doesn't quite make sense to me. "But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God." 1 Corinthians 11:3 Took look at this scripture, I can't see how a woman pastor (who is head of her church) would be Biblical. My husband stands pretty firm on this too, its something we've always been in agreement with.

    2. oh ok! thats fine! your totally entitled to your own opinion i was just wondering because we have a women pastor at my church (although she isn't the head pastor.) Hopefully i can be honest with you in a really humble way and tell you that some things i really wonder about in the bible -some stuff i don't understand. what i am getting from that verse is that it's a mess to have a women pastor as long as they are leading the men. but how can that be? i hope you don't take any offense to my comment! these are just the things that are crossing my mind-

  4. This is a beautiful post ~ You are so right. Love it Dominique!

    (¸¤ Lanaya | xoxo

    1. Thanks Lanaya!! You're comments always make me smile!

  5. Great post! I think that as women, we are all different. And it's our differences that make each of us who we are. I don't believe that being SAHM or housewife makes anybody a slave to their family or marriage. Likewise, working out of the home doesn't mean that you're trying to wear the pants in your relationship. A woman's place is wherever SHE desires herself to be and not where society says she should be!

  6. I recently read that on Yahoo. About one of the top jobs of women being a 'secretary'? I shout, girl power!


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