Monday, November 05, 2012

How to love your little people...

Each day I wake up to a new adventure with my little people.

They can make me mad, break my heart, and fill up it with joy all in just a few seconds.

I never stop thinking about ways to show them how much I love them. 

Jesus gave them to me and the hubs to nurture, love, care for, discipline, and raise up to be mighty men and women of God! It's a huge task for anyone to take on, and its actually pretty scary. I tend to look at all the bad things I've done, and pray (extremely hard I might add) that they never do the same things. This in itself can make parenting pretty hectic. The pressure to raise your children beyond the perfection that we ourselves have even obtained.

Again, this is where Jesus comes in.

He seems to pour into my children attributes that only he can give-

Kindness. Thankfulness. Obedience. Love. Manners.

I am shocked each and every time my 1 year old says "please" and "thank you". I know 10 year olds who don't do that.

I don't take a bit of credit for this. I pray each and every evening that the Lord would take this time to minister to the hearts of my children. I also ask that he do the same to me. That he would give me the ability to pour out my heart onto them, just as He pours out his love for me. I ask that He allow me to be Jesus to them. 

I've only been a parent for a little less than 4 years, but I have learned so much. I have learned about grace and patience, and that my 3 year old can pour out an immense amount of love on me above what I could ever imagine-or deserve.

So here are some of the ways I have learned to love my children:

1- Pray with them.
Sounds so simple, but my daughter can't go to sleep unless one of us takes the time to pray with her. Even Cashe Money gets quiet when I begin to pray with him. I think this is probably the most important thing to do you with your babies.

2. Allow them to be kids.
Okay, so they giggle really loud in the store or they decide to talk to every stranger that walks by in Walmart. Maybe they want to ask 100 questions, or have you read the same book 9709832 times. Let them. If it isn't going to hurt them, you, or anyone else-enjoy it. Laugh with them. And revel in the fact that you have a little person with a big personality.

3. Smile at them.
We as adults wear the world on our shoulders-don't expose your children to such stress. Let them keep their ignorance for as long as possible.

4. Love your spouse.
I've talked about this before, but especially as a SAHM, my reaction to my husband is how my children will view him. 

5. Get dirty.
Oh wow. I sooooo struggle with this one! I freak when they get the least bit dirty, but I have found that if I let them run around like wild ones outside with the hubs, they come inside so happy! If I begin spazzing about them being dirty, it strips that fun away.

6. Teach them to give.
We started very early explaining to the kids that once they start having too many toys in the house, or they stop playing with something for a long time-it is given to a child (or organization) who needs it more. We also teach about tithing or "giving back to Jesus".

7. Cook with them.
Not sure why, but having them interact with me in everyday situation makes them extremely excited! Everything from cooking to laundry-they both really enjoy it.

8. Shelter them from the evils of the world.
And don't give me that, "They'll be exposed anyways" argument. There is a difference between being exposed and being immune. Watch everything you say or do around these littles. It can be a slow fade to a bigger problem.

9. Discipline them.
The Word commands us to. I would rather have to discipline my babies a handful of times than to threaten them a million times. Too many times we allow them to sin because we say "they're just going through a phase". Sin is sin people. If my 1 year old is disobedient to me, I must teach him how to be obedient. If my 3 year old sasses me-she must learn that's not how we talk to adults. I DO NOT want to have two teens on my hands who don't respect me, or anyone else for that matter.

10. Take them time to disconnect and play!
Get off the computer, turn off the TV, and just play with them. The more time they spend with you, the more they will want to be around you.

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  1. So cute! thank you for the advice.. I may not be a mom but I have a lil nephew :)

  2. I love, love, love this!!! I whole heartedly agree with EVERYTHING you listed! We have prayed with our little girl for a long time and about a month ago she reached for my hands as I prayed. It melted my heart to know that she gets it!

    Thanks for sharing this and linking up with the Tuesday Baby Link Up! I'd love to feature you next week if you could add a link back on your post!

    I'm also your newest follower!



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