Hey ladies (and maybe some gents)!
I just wanna thank all my new followers for stopping by, and I am so glad you're here!!!
Now, I have not been able to get last week's post, 10 Ways to Disrespect Your Husband, out of my head. The Lord just keeps showing me more and more and goes along it. He's opened my eyes to more things that I need to purge out of my life in order to be the wife He created me to me.
Today, I can't wait to bring you a LONG list of great ways to lift up, and show your man some
Respect if generally just another away to SHOW your love, rather than just talk about it.
"Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing." 1 Corinthians 13:1-3
I want my husband to experience a love beyond the norm. I desire my marriage to be an example to my children, so that they will never want to settle for less than what the Lord created love to be.
20 Way to Respect Your Husband
1. Don't tell him everything you think is wrong with him.
Yes, this is obvious, but I have heard wives do this. And DON'T vent it to others.
2. Words of affirmation.
I know that my hubby likes for me to tell him what I love about him. It helps lift him up when he's feeling like a failure. (Trouble at work, finances, etc.) You have no idea the large impact this can have on your love.
3. Support him in his role of leadership, even if it needs to be worked on.
Leaders are made, not born. And your husband isn't any different. He needs Jesus to mold him into a proper leader. Don't hinder that by reminding him he's not quite there.
4. Ask his opinion of things.
I have recently learned that it hurts my husband when I got to my mom first to ask about something. I didn't think this was a big deal, but it really is. Doing this shows who's first in your life (after the Lord, of course) and helps establish a great friendship within your marriage.
5. Don't "let yourself go".
I am certainly working on this one. As much as I love sitting around like a bum all day, I don't like my husband seeing me that way. He works with grungy men (and women!) all day long, I'd like to give him something great to look at when he gets home. This also gives Satan one less thing to work with. He didn't marry me looking like a slob, why on earth would he want to continue to be with anything otherwise?
6. Tell him he's a good daddy.
This always causes a pretty good smile. Just as we questions if we are good mothers, they too may be insecure. Help them out a bit, and remove the doubt.
7. Have a meal for him ready when he gets home.
I don't care how old fashioned you think this is, but it speaks VOLUMES. My lover works 12 hours shifts, and has a 20 min drive home. Last thing he wants to do is come home and have to wait for food, or cook his own. This gesture definitely goes a long way.
8. Keep a clean and orderly home.
This is a given. No complaining.
9. Don't be bossy.
Again, you are not his momma. Even if your intentions are good-just keep quiet. Your tone can cause serious tension and strife.
10. Have sex.
Yes. Do it. This is a great thing. Don't be stingy. Remember, love isn't about what you receive, it's about what you give-especially when you "don't feel like it".
11. Be a joyful wife.
No one wants to be around someone who is bitter and grouchy all of the time-and no one wants to live with one either.
12. Pray for him, and with him.
This to me, is one of the most romantic or intimate thing you can do. It goes a long way.
13. Flirt with him.
Make it fun!! You did it while dating, what changed??
14. Kiss him when he leaves, and when he returns.
Don't ever let this get out of style.
15. Wear out "I love you".
You can't ever say this too much.
16. Let him have "fun" days.
We have days that we go out with the girls, let him have his time too. As much as he loves you and the kids, he needs to have a day every now and then to get out and have some fun. Don't get upset about it.
17. Forgive those downfalls, just as you want him to forgive yours.
This is a BIGGIE. I pray each day that I will love my husband the way that Jesus does. This means being able to forgive his faults and allow him room to grow.
18. Stop expecting him to fulfill you in every way.
That is NOT his job, but the role of Jesus. If you're trying to fill a void within yourself with your husband, he will always fail you. Jesus is the only one that can make you feel whole.
19. Don't expect him to know.
He's not a mind reader! If there's something wrong, then let him know in a grown-up, loving fashion. Don't play the silent game either-it's just childish.
20. Say you're sorry.
Want your marriage to heal faster than the devil can send anything your way? Say sorry. Sometimes it will feel like sandpaper in your mouth (especially if you think you were in the right), but by doing so, you are saying that your relationship matters more than who is right or wrong.
You married this man because at one point, you felt like you couldn't live without him. Start acting like that's still the case. Value him, even through the hard times. Be the person you would be proud to be with. Stop playing the pity game and start taking back your marriage. Your children are watching. They NEED to see their parents madly in love. This isn't a fairy tale, but that doesn't mean God didn't create the passion and fire that CAN be apart of your relationship.
I say these things because I am tired of seeing women leave their husbands for such pettiness and selfishness. I am tired of seeing women talk to their husbands like dogs, and think they are some sort of spiritual head. Degrading your husband makes you no better than Jezebel. Look at Ruth, Esther, or Sara. These are women who are hailed because their love of their husbands mimicked their love for the Lord. Let them be your example.
Also, these are things I work on daily. I am not freed from any of these qualities. It takes work, but the reward is truly amazing!